And the Kindle Fire HD goes to…

Hey! Great news!

We just randomly selected the winner of the Kindle Fire HD 8” Bundle!

We also are giving a gift to the person that shared the contest the most. Yay!

There’s more!

You’re all winners today because

The Missing Pieces Plan w​as just launched on Kickstarter today!!

Get rewarded for backing the Missing Pieces Plan project 2 ways:

PLEDGE: Make a pledge to the Missing Pieces Plan campaign and earn rewards!

SHARE: Share on social media and gifts to sharers will be given throughout the campaign!

Go ahead and check out how the Missing Pieces Plan can help you and your loved ones live now, by planning for ‘later’ and gift a priceless gift – of peace of mind.

The winner of the bundle is Lisa Pelzek-Braun. Congratulations on winning the Kindle Fire HD 8” Bundle!

Click here to back the project and learn more about how the Missing Pieces Plan book can impact your life: Missing Pieces Plan Kickstarter

Thank you!

Jody

Is there such a thing as planning too soon?

Is there such a thing as planning too soon?

I don’t think so…

A good friend often makes fun of me for planning my daughter’s birthday parties months in advance. I LOVE any opportunity to plan. Especially fun occasions like parties or trips.

I hold the belief that nothing can be planned too soon – even how we choose to leave our loved ones.

“Leave a mess or a legacy.”

We get to choose what and how we leave our loved ones.

For many (or most) it may seem too hard to do what I’m suggesting, but that’s the beauty in the work. A more fulfilled life – a more LIVED life.

It is my hope that with the work we will do together in the Missing Pieces Plan book and accompanying worksheets, you will gain a better understanding of how you want to live NOW all while leaving your loved ones more prepared.

No one can prepare for what is to come completely. However, by doing a little planning today you can ease the burden your loved ones will one day face in your absence. The planning done today is a gift beyond measure. It is a priceless gift.

I hope you’ll join me as we launch this book and this movement to help us all prepare for what is to come and give a priceless gift – to ourselves and our loved ones.

JOIN ME!

We are launching the Missing Pieces Plan on Kickstarter NEXT WEDNESDAY!

Please help me bring the MPP movement to the masses by pledging to our campaign!! As friends and family, you’ll receive first ‘dibs’ on pledge categories and access to an Early Bird Special!

A Priceless Conversation: Yes, let’s talk about death!

Why do we avoid talking about death?

Our Botox driven society does everything to prevent aging let alone accept the reality of death. Which is why, when death becomes a reality, most of us are inadequately prepared to deal with it.

Why? Why is it so hard to talk about – let alone plan for – how we might want to ‘go’?

Today’s medicine as well as our longer lifespans makes options ‘at the end’ that much more complex. However, despite the complexity, the discussion (and written wishes) of how you want to die is a gift. A priceless gift to those you leave behind.

Too many families are left in anguish or regret, wishing they had known how their loved one wanted to die in the end or how they wanted to be remembered. We can remove the unknown – did I do enough? Is that what she/he would have wanted? How could we have had more quality time in the end? How could we have lessened their suffering?

I am here to suggest that beginning the conversations NOW regarding your death will ultimately lead to a greater sense of how you want to LIVE – in the here and now, with your loved ones.

Yes, I am asking all of us to do a hard task. But aren’t there countless sayings about the splendor that exists on the other side of hard work? The opportunities are endless – what you will learn about yourself, your loved ones, your true desires, and how you want to create or build upon your legacy.

So, not only can you build the life you want, but you can do the same for your legacy and dare I say it, your death.

Join me as we start the conversation with loved ones and let them know our wishes. Peace of mind is a priceless gift to leave your loved ones.

Wishing you peace and love this holiday season,

Jody

My Fufu and her burnt orange Texas longhorn Nike tennis shoes

What I would give to have my grandmother Fufu’s burnt orange longhorn Nike tennis shoes. “Fufu” was my dad’s mom and as the story goes, I am credited with her awesome one-of-a-kind grandmother nickname, Fufu. She was born Frances Fitzgerald. However, the nickname Fufu suited her so well.

My Fufu was a larger than life figure in my life (and I am pretty sure in the lives of my cousins and other family members as well). I spent a lot of time with her growing up. Most of the memories take place at her home where I would have sleepovers, swim and play with my cousins.

What I remember most about my grandmother Fufu were her painted on brown eyebrows, her ruby red lipstick, her Mexican inspired flowy blouse tucked into her long full skirt synched with a wide elastic belt adorned with a large gold daisy buckle and… those burnt orange Longhorn Nike tennis shoes. Oh, and her perfume! I think I’ve only smelled it once or twice on passing strangers in the 20 or so years since she’s passed but it takes me right back to sitting on her lap.

 

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I don’t have the burnt orange longhorn Nike tennis shoes because I never asked for them. I was in my early 20s when she died and it wasn’t something I thought about it. Or maybe I did. I just thought there would be an opportunity to ask for them, but there never was.

You may care more about a family ‘heirloom’ that has more monetary or less monetary value than a pair of old sneakers, but if there is something you care about that you would like passed on to you from a family member, ask for it. Make it known that it means something to you. It’s likely your family member or loved one doesn’t know. I am sure my Fufu never dreamed I would want her sneakers!

How do I ask??

“Fufu, I want your sneakers when you die.” Sounds a little weird coming off the tongue. And, knowing my Fufu my request may have amused her. Me having the gall to think she might be leaving this earth?

So, How do you say it? Make “the ask”?

“Fufu, I would like for you to leave me your sneakers. I want to see them and think of you. They mean something to me. They remind me of you – and how you always danced your way through life – on a little extra padding.”

I wonder if we had shared this conversation, what it would have meant to her? I know it would have meant the world to me. Just the memory of the conversation itself. Then, the sneakers would have been cake.

When your loved one is gone, you will be glad you made “the ask.” That you not only have the memento or heirloom, you will have the memory of making “the ask” and sharing a priceless conversation.

Sending love,

Jody

 

The Missing Pieces Plan KICKSTARTER Campaign launches January 4th! Enter to win a NEW Kindle Fire at www.missingpiecesplan.com. No limit on entries!!

What is the Missing Pieces Plan?

What is the Missing Pieces Plan?

For starters, it’s a book.

But, it’s so much more. Which is why it’s often a tough question for me to answer.

Last weekend, my father-in-law would be 73. He left us 18 years ago – far too soon.

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‘Too soon’ will come ‘too soon’ for all of us. Believe me, I know that is a hard sentence to swallow.

But, the Missing Pieces Plan is here to offer you (and your loved ones) a gift.

That gift is planning for ‘later’ so that you can live a more fulfilled life NOW. The Missing Pieces Plan is a love letter for those you will leave behind.

Eighteen years ago, my hope is that if we had had at least some of the ‘missing pieces’ for my father in law, the suffering we all endured could have been lessened. Maybe we would have at least known what he wanted at the end and been able to fulfill those wishes…

  • What stories would he want told at his bedside?
  • Whose hands would he want to hold as he left us? (All of ours, I know.)
  • Would he have preferred to be at home versus a hospital miles away?
  • What stories would he want to share with us ensuring his future grandchildren hear them one day?
  • What lessons and inspiring words would he have for his sons and only daughter?
  • How would he want to be honored, remembered?

I know, if better prepared, my father in law’s last days could have been different, better.

The hope is that by preparing, we can lessen the suffering for all of us and gain more minutes, hours, and days living and loving today.

By completing the Missing Pieces Plan, you will have a guide to help face what is ahead and spend more time living now.

 

The Missing Pieces Plan KICKSTARTER Campaign launches January 4th! Enter to win a NEW Kindle Fire at www.missingpiecesplan.com. No limit on entries!!

Would this be a wish of yours?

In Chapter 5 of the Missing Pieces Plan, I talk about the importance of creating your advance care plan.

Advanced Care Planning allows you to begin the conversations now about your wishes in regards to medical treatment in the future. There are documents to complete, yes. But in order to be able to put pen to paper, this planning involves some deep thoughts in regards to what you would want in the event of a sudden illness or injury, or a chronic or life-limiting illness.

In the Missing Pieces Plan, I want to help guide you in formulating your wishes by asking questions like:

  • What if I am no longer able to communicate?
  • Is there an occasion or life event I would like to make sure I live long enough to see?
  • Would life still be worth living if I were unable to do any or all of the following basic daily activities; feeding, dressing, bathing, walking, etc.?
  • Are there any circumstances where I would want to put on a ventilator? Or, do I never want that?

Allowing yourself time to really contemplate what you want – (and acknowledge that these wants will change as we age and as circumstances change) – is a gift to yourself and your loved ones. By putting this missing piece in place, you are also taking an enormous amount of stress off your loved ones, since you are providing guidance for often-difficult decisions about your care.

Today, after seeing this video on Facebook, the above questions seem to have even more relevance. I am again reminded of the importance of gaining a true understanding of what you want and sharing it with your loved ones.

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Click here to watch video.

This video of a grandson dancing with his fragile grandmother is priceless. When you see the smile across her face you can’t help but be moved. Knowing she is living here on earth – even in her frail condition.

So, I ask, would this be a wish of yours? Whether you can speak or not, walk or not, would you still want to be in your grandson’s embrace?

No wish is too small or too irrelevant. They all have meaning and are all important.

Make them, write them, and share them.

Live into what you want, your dreams, your wishes. We all can – if we spend the time making them.

Give yourself the gift of that time now. It will be a priceless gift for you and your loved ones ‘later.’

Sending love, Jody

The Missing Pieces Plan is launching January 4th on Kickstarter. Sign up here for updates on the launch! www.missingpiecesplan.com

If you could share Thanksgiving dinner with anyone, who would it be??

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If you could share Thanksgiving dinner with anyone, who would it be?

It’s answers to questions like these that help create your story. And I feel, help you create your legacy.

Today, sharing Thanksgiving with my Nana would be my answer.

I have fond memories of Thanksgiving dinners at my grandparents’ house – the smell of my Nana’s turkey roasting in the oven, the grownups fighting over the last scoop of her mashed potatoes and my cousins playing football on the front lawn.

My Nana’s recipes have always been a prized treasure to me. And even though I’m still a novice cook, I am grateful to have them so I may carry on her traditions, her legacy.

From Missing Pieces Plan:

“Making your legacy come alive starts with defining it in a tangible way—answering questions such as:

  • What beliefs and values do you want to pass on?
  • What traditions do you want to pass on?
  • What is your “story”?
  • What are your charitable and community activities?
  • What material assets are you passing on?
  • What family memories to you want to make NOW?
  • How would you like to be remembered?

Your legacy can have an impact on your family regardless of its simplicity or complexity. It is what matters to you.”

It’s in this planning, this “work”, this dreaming, that we can begin to fully live, find our true meaning, our values, and passions and be able to share those with our loved ones.

The act of sharing who you are is a gift – one that our loved ones will be thankful for, for years to come.

You may not think so, but your loved ones want to know your story, passions, and values – even the name of the person you’d like to break bread with. That alone is part of your legacy.

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With the Missing Pieces Plan, I hope to bring awareness to some topics we often glaze over (or ignore altogether). These ‘topics’ or missing pieces, when included in our plans, provide our loved ones (and us) with a priceless gift – the gift of peace of mind.

The Missing Pieces Plan will be your guide to know what questions to ask of your loved ones or for you to document for the next generation.

The time is now to build and share your legacy.

I am thankful for your support.

Happy Thanksgiving!

Jody

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